It is very unusual for some days for a newly married girl to adjust to a new home where she goes after marriage. There she finds everyone and everything new. To settle there takes time because she has to understand and know from zero to ten. Especially in the case of arrange marriages it is. In love marriages a girl most probably knows all the members of family. Yet it is not about adjusting to a new house while it is adjusting to new relationship where you live with a whole family mostly in India. It is the case. Nowadays this is the thing that a couple is living in their separate house after marriage but still living in joint family is a general thing. For a new girl sometimes it is in a day that everything gets comfortable while for some perhaps it is a month or months. The most important role here plays mother in law, who is like a mother also to a new married girl. She is the one who is always there to help as a newly married girl thinks so about her. The first time impression is a long time impression. Hence below we are going to tell you about how you can be a good mother in law, and the secret of it has come from a daughter in law’s dairy, of which we get access to with the permission of the daughter in law. She wrote everything about her mother in law when she got married. These details are from a competition where a daughter in law needs to tell some genuine good things about her mother in law. The woman who told is the competition’s winner, and all that we are going to tell you is excerpt from the diary.
So hold on going to be mother-in-laws the secret of how to be good mother in law:
The image of mother in law is not considered good generally but it is not the case. The image gets tampered due to old movies and TV serials. Yet you mother-in-laws must not behave like an in-law to your daughter in law who has just come leaving her home in the shelter of you. You must be like a mother to her as her real mother. This is the first condition that how you should be and make her comfortable rather than just telling her how she should be and what she do or not.
Talk to your daughter in law if she is a bit uncomfortable. In most cases daughter-in-laws are where they feel in the starting hesitant to talk. Don’t force on her anything. Just let her do as she wishes to do everything. It is now her home also and let her feel that she can do what she wants to do as she feels in her father’s home.
Help her if she needs in anything, it doesn’t mean that all responsibilities have come to your daughter in law and you only have to reign and your work is now only saying and doing nothing. This should not be like this.
You are the most important woman in your son’s life but after marriage her wife is. And this you have to accept and understand it. But it doesn’t mean you are not. The dynamics and proportion of relationship you have to understand and sometimes where you think you are first, you have to come there as second priority.
No inequality. There should not be any sign of inequality between your son and your daughter in law. You should not show it and never do it. It is seen sometimes mother in laws favors their son a lot often ignoring their daughter in laws, and with the time they feel neglected and this could ruin relationship. You must take care of that.
Sorry- if anything wrong has gone between you and your daughter in law then you should not hesitate to say sorry to your daughter in law. Saying sorry and admitting to the mistake doesn’t lower your reputation in the eyes of daughter in law while increase it. Because your daughter in law is also like your daughter. But we must say you remove this ‘like’ from the above line. And keep the mantra your daughter in law is your daughter.
And besides all that you daughter in law must never forget to wish your mother in law happy birthday. Say some nice heart-warming lines from happy birthday mother in law to pour love on your mother like mother in law who is always there for you in all lows and ups of your life after marriage.